Words can't describe how much I appreciate all she has done for us.
Eric Hargis
When Justin and Linda came to me, they had been married for over 20 years. On the outside, they had it all—successful careers, a busy family life, and plenty of friends. But inside their marriage, they felt disconnected.
“What happened to the spark?” Justin wondered. “Why aren’t we connecting like we used to? Can we really keep doing this for another 20 years?”
Like many "type-A personalities," as Justin described them, they had always made time for their careers, kids, and friends, but not for each other. Their relationship was running on autopilot, and they knew something had to change.
1. Putting the Relationship First
The first thing we did was help Justin and Linda see their relationship as something worth prioritizing. They admitted they had never put the same focus on their marriage as they did on everything else in their lives. “We always had time for career and kids,” Justin said, “but not for us.” That shift—pausing to truly make their relationship important—was the foundation for everything that followed.
2. Honest and Insightful Conversations
In our sessions, I asked them challenging questions that couldn’t be ignored. Justin and Linda were pushed to answer honestly in front of each other, even when it felt uncomfortable. “I can’t tell you how many times I answered, expecting my wife or you to agree,” Justin shared, “and got the exact opposite response. Those moments were gold—they changed how I saw things.”
These conversations weren’t just about airing grievances. They opened the door to real awareness and understanding of themselves and each other.
3. Justin’s Personal Growth
Beyond the couples’ work, Justin and I had private conversations that were transformative. He came into the process with strong ideas about “who’s at fault,” but those conversations helped him reflect on his own role in the challenges they faced.
“I’ll admit, I thought I had it all figured out,” Justin said. “But I saw things differently after those talks. I can truly say it changed me—not just in my marriage but in how I show up in my professional life too.”
Despite being a highly successful, financially secure, and accomplished couple, Justin and Linda discovered that growth is a lifelong journey. While they initially came to me to address communication and connection, our work together revealed deeper opportunities for transformation.
Through my intuitive gifts and the fascinating insights of spiritual numerology, we uncovered hidden patterns that not only unlocked their individual potential but also brought them together on a completely new, heightened level of connection they never expected. This layer of self-discovery deepened their bond and allowed them to experience their relationship in a way that was richer, more aligned, and profoundly fulfilling. Even for those who feel they’ve already “made it,” growth can open doors to dimensions they didn’t know existed.
Over time, Justin and Linda began to rediscover the connection they thought they had lost, but the transformation went far beyond what they expected. Their conversations became more open, their conflicts more productive, and their bond stronger than ever.
What truly surprised them was how the deeper work—combining personal growth, intuitive insights, and unexpected revelations—opened doors they didn’t even know existed. They found themselves not just reconnecting but experiencing their relationship on a level that felt entirely new. Their marriage became a space for mutual growth, understanding, and shared purpose, evolving into something richer and more fulfilling than they had ever imagined.
As Justin put it, “I don’t talk about my feelings much, if ever. Like most guys, I’d talk to my wife about that stuff, but what do you do when your wife is part of the problem? You became the person who could help me work through it. It wasn’t just counseling—you felt like a friend who really got it.”
Read Justin’s full testimonial in his own words below.
Here’s Justin’s story in his own words, sharing the challenges he and Linda faced and the transformation they experienced together:
"When we met Elena my wife and I were trying to figure out what, I suppose, many couples who’ve been married for 20+ years are trying to figure out: What happened to the flame? Why aren’t we communicating like we used to? How can we get that back? Am I going to keep doing this for another 20 years? Elena helped us in three major ways: #1) She asked us to stop and think about our relationship and make it important. As two “type-A” personalities we always had time for careers, kids, and friends, but didn’t apply that same energy and thought to our relationship. But that was just the start. #2) Elena listened to our positions and then asked us insightful questions and pushed us for answers, even when it got uncomfortable. We had to answer those questions in front of each other and nobody was able to leave the room. I can’t tell you how many times I answered questions expecting a response from Elena or my wife, and got a different or sometimes opposite response than I expected. Those moments were GOLD and really led me down a path of my own personal awareness that, at age 53, I thought I had down pat. Which leads me to #3 – which was more about me. I’ll admit I had some pretty firm ideas about who I was and “whose fault it was.” I can truly say that I re-evaluated some of those ideas and saw my contribution to the problem due to several conversations I had with Elena outside the couple’s conversations. Those conversations led to real changes that have impacted both my personal and professional life. I’m kind of a “typical guy” in that I don’t talk about myself or my feelings much, if ever. Like most guys, I talked to my wife about that stuff, but what do you do when your wife is part of the problem? Elena transcended the role of counselor and became a friend, albeit a friend who knew what I was really thinking. I think that’s rare."
Justin S.
Justin and Linda’s story shows that it’s never too late to turn things around. Whether you’ve been together for two years or 20, the key to a thriving relationship is intention: making time, having honest conversations, and being willing to grow.
If this resonates with you, I’d love to help. Let’s work together to build the connection and communication you deserve.
Together, we can create something truly lasting!