Interestingly enough, I've noticed a consistent pattern in my relationship coaching practice: While January 2025 brings a flood of goals around personal development, business growth, and health improvements, most couples - whether navigating marriage, considering divorce, or working to strengthen their love - completely overlook setting intentions for their relationships.
The bond between a wife and husband requires just as much strategic planning as any other life goal.
We're masters at setting targets for our careers, finances, and fitness journeys. But when I ask my clients about their relationship goals, I often see confused looks.
In my decade of coaching couples through various stages of love and marriage, I've discovered that managing a thriving relationship mirrors running a successful business more than you might think.
Whether you're newly married, working through challenges with your husband, recovering from divorce, or building a stronger foundation of love, setting clear goals is crucial.
Let me share what I've learned:
When couples don't set clear goals, their relationship often drifts aimlessly. Just like a business without a strategy, they react to circumstances rather than create their desired future.
I've seen this pattern repeatedly in my coaching practice, but I've also witnessed the amazing changes that happen when couples start treating their relationship from a more conscious perspective.
Through working with hundreds of couples, I've identified several key parallels between successful businesses and thriving relationships:
Let me tell you about Linda and Bryan (names changed), a couple who recently transformed their relationship using my goal-setting approach. Like many couples I work with, they initially described their relationship as "good enough" but sensed it could be better.
One weekend, when their kids were visiting cousins, they decided to try something different. They created what I call a "Connection Space" - their favorite hot cocoa in hand, soft music playing in the background, and two fresh journals and a couple of their favorite pens ready for the magic to happen.
What happened next amazed them and even me as their coach.
They discovered that treating their relationship with the same intentionality as their careers created extraordinary results. Using my guided 5-step process, they:
The transformation I witnessed in their relationship was remarkable. Within months, they reported deeper connections, better communication, and a renewed sense of excitement about their future together.
In my years of coaching, I've found that couples who set intentional goals are three times more likely to report relationship satisfaction.
The key isn't just setting the goals - it's following a structured process that turns those goals into reality.
The process I've developed combines proven business strategies with a deep understanding of relationship dynamics.
It's not about turning your relationship into a business - it's about applying successful principles to strengthen your connection.
In this part of our conversation, I want to share the exact process that's helped countless couples, including Linda and Bryan, transform their relationships. I've created a comprehensive guide that walks you through each step, complete with the worksheets and examples I use in my coaching practice.
P.S. The guide includes exclusive bonus materials I typically reserve for my private coaching clients. Don't miss this opportunity to strengthen your relationship in 2025.
